One The Problems with Adult Children -- 1 Understanding Middle-Aged Parents and Their Adult Problem Children -- 2 How Did All This Happen ? -- 3 How Conflict with Their Adult Children Can Harm Middle-Aged Parents -- 4 Whose Problem? Yours, Mine, or Ours? -- Three Shared Problems of Parents and Adult Children -- 5 The Unemptied Nest -- 6 Dangling Grandchildren -- 7 Fall Shorts -- 8 Meddlesome Grandparents -- 9 Injury and Illness -- 10 Stepparents and Stepchildren -- 11 Legal, Fiscal, and Other Plights -- Four Individual Problems Growing Out of Differing Lifestyles -- 12 Individual Problems of Parents of Adult Children -- 13 Lifestyles and Meaningful Relationships -- 14 Gay or Lesbian Children -- 15 Cult Memberships -- 16 Abuse of Substances -- 17 The Ungrateful Child -- Five Coping Strategies -- 18 How to Develop a Rational Solution for Your Parent-Child Problem: Building a Decision-Tree -- 19 An Exercise in Decision-Making -- 20 Finding the Right Kind of Help.